I am a man over Christ’s age. I masturbate daily for the past 20 years, in recent months I do it 2-4 times a day. What will you advise me in order to decrease the number of masturbations, how many masturbations per week is normal? I am afraid that with all this masturbation I may damage my reproducibility.
Masturbating itself is not a problem. The problem is if it replaces normal sex or compensates for a psychological problem and becomes addictive. Let me give you an example of how masturbation becomes hypercompensation. When the child is anxious, he often plays with the genitals. A neural like between anxiety and masturbation is formed in the brain. And, in reality, one does not masturbate for real pleasure, but to reduce their anxiety. Masturbation can become addictive when we do not feel loved, when we are afraid of rejection, and do not tolerate intimacy. When we are afraid of sex fails or that we will not meet our partner’s expectations! So:
1. Stop for at least a month!
2. Ask yourself a question: what do I replace with this? What do I miss?
3. Look around to see if you have people you love and if you feel loved. If not – try to change the situation.
4. Watch and record very carefully what happens when you are not masturbating.
Following these instructions will bring out a lot of problems that you are hiding within yourself, but only when you see them will you be able to deal with them!